Thursday, November 29, 2012

You Get What You Get and You Don't Get Upset: On Respecting Our Children

            I first heard the phrase "you get what you get and you don't get upset" a few years ago.  A family I know said it to their daughter, and it seemed to end any and all discussions and arguments.  Since I had never heard it before, I wasn't sure if they made it up or not, but it seemed almost comical to my wife and I (Lilian was a teeny tiny, maybe two years old or less), and so we started saying it to each other in jest for the past few years in ridiculous situations.  I ran over a giant nail in my mother-in-law's driveway and my tire deflated at cartoon-like speed.  "Oh man [i probably used some curse word other than "man" here], I can NOT believe I got a flat tire today."   And she would reply, "You get what you get and you don't get upset," which would send us both into hysterics for a minute or two, before I had to face the reality of "we're not going anywhere with this flat tire, and we have stuff to do."  Disappointed with a Christmas bonus or raise at work?  "You get what you get and you don't get upset" always made the situation feel a little more ridiculous and hilarious, and took the sting away for a second.  It was an inside joke for us that always made a crappy situation laughable for a minute.

So when my 4-year-old daughter came home from pre-school one day and quoted at us "you get what you get and you don't get upset", well, I got a little upset.  I asked her where she heard that, since we joked about it privately, and certainly never said it to her.  She said that one of the teachers (not her MAIN teacher that she's had for two years and we love) said it to her.  She said they all got a piece of construction paper for a project, and she always does her projects in her favorite colors (yellow and orange, yuck!) and the teacher didn't give her the yellow paper, and when she asked for it, the teacher told her "you get what you get and you don't get upset" and walked away. (Note: Lilian is both very sensitive and very verbal for her age.  When she tells us about something that happens, 99% of the time it's true if we look into it.  She's not the type to make things up or get them wrong.  And when something upsets her, it stays with her for a while, and she usually tells us all about it.)  Because she had attended this school for a whole school year, and then two months into the second year and never heard this before, I was a little shocked and horrified that she was told that, and then was repeating it.

See, to me, the phrase "you get what you get and you don't get upset" translates to "take what I gave you, shut the hell up, I can't be bothered."  And that's not the attitude I take with children (either my own, or the ones I work for as a nanny or babysitter) and it's not the attitude I expect others to take with my kids, especially ones being paid (a lot of money) to work with her!  To me, the appropriate response is "Sorry, Lily, we're all out of yellow paper, you'll have to use pink."  Or "Today Abigail is getting the yellow, you can have pink or green, and it'll be your turn to get yellow another day."   Or "this is all we have today, we don't have any yellow."  I believe an explanation of WHY she can't have the yellow paper is appropriate and it hardly takes more effort or words.  I'm not saying that she should be given everything she asks for when she wants it (though if there WAS more yellow paper in the closet, that could have been a solution too), but I would appreciate her being the same courtesy and respect that an adult would be given with an explanation as to why she can't have her request.  My child is not a brat, she won't have a meltdown if she's told it's someone else's turn (she's good at sharing), so why the immediate dismissal of her question?

My mom has been a teacher for my whole life at various grade levels (first grade before I came around, nursery/pre-school when my brother and I were school age, and now at the elementary school level again) and so I asked her about this phrase.  She told me that she personally doesn't use it, but she wasn't surprised to hear it.  She said she's heard teachers, school employees, parents, etc use it.  Because we don't have many friends with children and this is Lily's first school experience, I wasn't sure about how commonly used the phrase is.  I certainly don't remember ever hearing as a child at my own home, school, or my friends homes.  I was a little concerned to hear that this is a message being given to the current generation of children.

I think if you were to sum up our parenting style in one sentence, it would be: "We try to teach our child, help her develop relationships, share our values and morals, all with a sense of respect and individuality."  For me, the offending phrase goes against everything I believe in.  Parenting/teaching shouldn't be a dictatorship, it should be a partnership.  I don't want to teach my child to obey, but rather to understand.  It's my job as a parent to help her develop and grow relationships with us (her parents), her peers, her teachers,  and society.    But I see it as my job to guide her, not to direct her.  She's not a little puppet, but a tiny human with individual thoughts and feelings.

I can definitely understand the frustration of having a child that is feeling picky, or moody, or especially stubborn.  All children have those moments.  But I think that lashing out with "you get what you get and you don't get upset" is never the answer.  You may have worked hard cooking a meal, and your kid may not want to touch it.  But a more gentle & respectful "well, this is what is for dinner, I worked hard on it and it's healthy" is more appropriate in my opinion, even if you don't want to offer a compromise or alternative.  (From what I can gather asking people about it, I think that this phrase is often used regarding food or meal choices.)  Children deserve explanations and logic and are more likely to respond positively if they can understand WHY their parents are insisting on something.  Maybe, dinner becomes less of a punishment then, and the child can understand why it might hurt mom's feelings for rejecting it.

And, for what it's worth, sometimes in life you do "get what you get", but it doesn't mean you shouldn't get upset.  Maybe sometimes, it's OK to be upset about something.  Who are we to invalidate our children's feelings?  I don't remember being four, but it may truly be upsetting to a four year old to have to make a pink  art project, when her "vision" is in yellow.  And though it may not be the end of the world, validating the disappointment should be important to us too.  "I'm sorry you can't have the yellow today, I know you wanted it."  Because invalidating our children's feelings is not a good way to build trusting and respectful relationships between us, and it doesn't teach them to respect others either.

I'm not sure how this phrase translates to a four year old, but I can tell you that it stuck with Lily enough to tell me about it at home.  And I know that it didn't make her feel good.  But I can only imagine that it's a matter of time, or maybe a matter of usage (how many times will she be told this) before she realizes that it translates to "i don't care what you want or how you feel about it"?

I know life isn't always sunshine and roses, sometimes we get handed a lemon.  And sometimes there isn't an explanation for it.  We can't always get what we want (or what we need for that matter, either).  But it's our right to have feelings about it.  Let's teach our children to recognize and handle those feelings, then move on. Let's try to give our children the explanations we'd expect from one adult to another, instead of just dismissing them.  And let's try to spread respect instead of a "tough shit" attitude.

The phrase rhymes and is catchy.  It may be an easy thing to toss out to children.  And it may seem to stop arguments before they even begin.   But I beg of parents and teachers - please THINK about this phrase and the message it sends before using it again.  Is this truly the message we want to be sending our future generations?

45 comments:

  1. The way I heard it was "you get what you get and you don't throw a fit".

    I agree that it is not appropriate in this situation and actually for most situations involving children.

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  2. Comment sent to me on Facebook from "K":

    "Hi Dana- I just wanted to say I thought your blog post on you get what you get and don't get upset was very eye opening... I was a teacher and a mom and I would say that...never saw it from the POV you presented. Definitely something to think about as my daughter gets older. ( she is just 18 months now) I don't know if I agree a 100%- But I definitely wanted my daughters feeling validated! Thank you for that!!!"

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  3. Another Facebook comment left from "L":

    " My Dad's version of this was "tough shit" and "end of story". Good article <3 "

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  4. A Facebook comment left by JG: " You get what you get until you do something about it! That is a slogan worth repeating!"

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  5. Another comment left on facebook by J K-C: "At Josh's school they say you get what you get and you don't throw a fit which I think is different. When you have a room full of 4 year olds it's not always possible to give a palatable explanation to each one of them that is complaining about their snack, their cup, the paper, the crayon, the play space, the tool, doll, etc. they use the phrase to encourage use of their words. Don't whine and scream and cry and freak out because something isn't exactly as you think it should be. Use your words and talk about it or just deal (which is sometimes a very important life skill to have because we sometimes have to choose what's worth complaining about in life - maybe a green cup isn't THAT important). I agree we are all entitled to get upset when we need to but we need to learn how to communicate this and when to do something about it or not. I also agree it shouldn't be used as a way to be dismissive."

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  6. Facebook comments left by MV: " I've always heard it as "you get what you get and you don't throw a fit". I really loved your post. It's very true and well written. I'm glad you are such a thoughtful parent. On the flip side, kids to tad can be self entitled little terrors and I do believe sometimes it's ok if we don't feel we owe them an explanation. Because some parents (not you) take this WAY too far, being loving a free and giving the child endless choices and seem shocked when the kids a terror when they are 13 with no idea how to follow rules. Kwim?
    But I referring more to rules and boundaries and not colored paper or dinner. I really liked how you also mentioned the importance of raising an individual. That's going to stick with me because silly as it seems, I often lose sight of this (think this probably happens more often with larger families kinda get that herd mentality going)."

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  7. Interesting post. I heard this phrase just today. I was handing out ice cream to about 20 kids. The lady who bought the ice cream wanted m&ms mixed in it for the kids. She made a mistake though, and got neopolitan (3 flavours) instead of just plain vanilla. I didn't want to mix it because not all kids like all flavours and I thought it would be nice to let the kids choose the flavour they want.

    I was telling one of the parents what had happened and she said to go ahead and mix the m&ms in even if the flavours get mixed because "you get what you get and you don't get upset." In other words that's how the ice cream is and if they don't like it to bad. This lady has 7 kids and they hear this phrase all the time. With 7 kids she doesn't always have the time to give each kid an explanation.

    I think we can apply this to the classroom. When you have a class of 20-30 kids you can't stop and give each kid an explanation. You also can't ask each kid what colour they would like. It would take forever and even worse you'd have endless arguments if you didn't have enough to make sure each child was able to get the colour they want. So for the sake of the teacher's sanity it's much easier to hand out a random colour to each child and say to them "you get what you get." If the colour of the paper made a difference to the child's work it would be a different story, if not there genuinely is no reason to be upset.

    I like to think this phrase doesn't mean you can't feel upset, I think it's more about the actions. Some people have already mentioned an alternate ending "don't throw a fit" which is probably more appropriate. I think what it means is, okay, so you didn't get the colour you want, you can feel upset but work with what you've got. You might not like the colour that was given to you but don't start asking for another colour because that's the colour I've handed to you and you get what you're given.












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  22. This is my testimony on how i won $66 million dollars. I am from USA I want to use this opportunity to thank Great PAPA for helping me to win the lottery of $66 million lottery ticket.I have been playing the lottery for the past 5 years now and i have never won. Ever since then i have not been able to win and i was so upset and i need help to win the lottery. so i decided to go online and search for help,there i saw so many good testimony about this man called Great PAPA of how he have cast lucky spell lotto for people to win the lottery.I contact him also and tell him i want to win a lottery, he cast a spell for me which i use and i play and won $66 million dollars. I am so grateful to this man, just in-case you also need him to help you win,you can contact him through his Email> greatpapax@gmail.com and he will surely help you
    Email> greatpapax@gmail.com
    http://greatpapax.wixsite.com/website-1

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  23. Today is the happiest day of my life, because problems I have been battling with over the years are now solved. My wife almost left me because she was unable to put in (pregnant) as result of my weak erection and premature ejaculation, I looked everywhere for a solution all to no avail, I have even been scammed severally before I met a Man called Lawson who put an end to the problem. If you are having erectile dysfunction contact him with this email dr.lawson52@gmail.com

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  24. Excited and extremely happy, and thankful that my marriage with my husband has been restored. me and my husband have been married of 22 years together 23. After i found him texting a coworker and questioned him, he said they were just friends but 3 wks later he told me he didnt love me anymore that he was in love with her and that i made him feel bad about himself and she didnt. He left home for 2 wks came home and left 2 wks later. Been gone for 3 1/2 months now. Hes been going to bars, calling women, lying like crazy, drinking like a fish and hasnt spoken to the kids the whole time hes been gone. His whole personality has changed. We believe he is going thru some sort of mid life crisis. Its crazy, he is acting like a person that we dont know anymore. Is it possible to get my marriage back. Because I know that he is going thru some crazy thing right now Im finding it very hard to let go. I still love him. How can I save my marriage and family when my husband is in the middle of a mid life crisis and wont listen to my or anyone else. We are so confused. i try to communicate with him but still hang off the phone on me,I love my family. and my husband and i need to keep my marriage save with him from other women so i have to seek for a love spell to keep our marriage stronger and safe so going online one day on facebook, i saw a prayer point, and a website say if you need your ex back, save your marriage, and fight your husband from divorce. i was so very happy a hopeful again that i can get back with my husband after i saw this website so i read this testimony of this website on how he help save his marriage nd i was excited to give a try so i contacted him and give him all the reason why i need his help, and he assured me that with-6 good hours of his spell that my husband will come back home to me so i believe and trust him coz he was like a father to me also a man of his words so today am happy that my husband who has been away for 3 1/2 months now with his coworker is back home with apology plz you all should help me and thank Dr happy he really save my life and my marriage so email him if you need help also on happylovespell2@gmail.com call +2348133873774 about his service and web site: http://happyspelltemple.webs.com/

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  25. Hello everyone, i am here to share my testimony on how i conceived my baby. by the help of a spell caster called Dr aza, i have been married to my husband for 12years without no issue.i had problems with my in-laws even my husband started to have new affairs aside our marriage. it was a very terrible thing to bear. i became a laughing stock among my pear, i prayed and fasted and nothing happened. i was now seen as always unhappy.i was even ready to pack out of my marital home and stay on my own because my husband was not given me any attention that i needed from him. i decided to focus on my job and try to live happy on my own. on this faithful day, i decided to check the internet for updates on healthy living and i came across a story of a woman called mercy, saying that Dr aza helped her with a spell that make her to conceive a baby. i decided to give him a try because this has been my greatest problem in life. today i am a proud mother with a son. words will not be enough to explained what this man did for me.i am a happy mother,i know there is someone in same condition and you feel there is no way. i urge you to contact him. This is the solution to every single mother around the globe. distance is not a barrier, he will surely make your dreams come trough. contact him today via email: azaspellcaster@gmail.com you can call him or whatsApp his number +2348107155060

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  26. I am carmen olga,i am from Californian,i want to use this wonderful opportunity to thank Dr. aghatotikolo who helped me and my wife to won lottery. We won(£33,035,323) i have spent so much money playing this game for many years,i ask myself sometimes when will i win huge amount of money,one day i came across Dr.aghatotikolo advertisement on internet how he helped people and grant them their heart desire by winning lottery with his powerful lottery spell,so i decided to email him. He assure us that our request will be granted once he cast the lucky winning spell,i believe and follow his instructions,after the casting of the spell,he sent us the winning numbers,wish we use to play and won {Thirty three million,thirty five thousand,three hundred twenty three pounds} right now i am short of words,we are multimillionaire we won a huge amount,he is the best man on earth to work with,he take away the poverty from my generation,his direct email is aghatotikolospiritualhome@gmail.com whatapp +2349023398917

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  27. My name is Larry Jose am from Texas USA. I want to share a testimony of how Dr. Miracle herbal mixture cream saves me from shame and disgrace, my penis was a big problem to me as the size was really so embarrassing,and i was also having weak erection problem. I can make love to my wife and my pines was just too small a full grown man like me having 4 inches penis and to worsen it i don't last in sex i cant even last two minutes it was really a thing of shame to me. My wife was really tired of me because my sex life was very poor,she never enjoyed sex,i was always thinking and searching for solutions everywhere until when i saw a testimony of how Dr. Miracle herbal mixture cream have been helping people regarding their sex life, so i decided to give him a try and to my greatest surprise in less than one week of taking the herbs my penis grow to 8 inches i couldn't believe my eyes and as i speak now my penis is now 8 inches and i do not have week erection again. I can make love to my wife longer in bed. And my marriage is now stable,my wife now enjoy me very well in bed. You can contact him via (MIRACLESPELLHOME@YAHOO.COM) You can contact him today and get your problem solved.Call +2348071398555.." or you can also contact him through his website http://miraclespellhome.wix.com/dr-miracles,,,I am really grateful sir,

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  28. Good day,,,,
    Read my testimony!!! Getting ex back after a breakup. Am Clara Bartlett 30 from UK, my boyfriend of a 2year just broke up with me and am 28 weeks pregnant. I have cried my self to sleep most of the nights and don’t seem to concentrate during lectures sometimes I stay awake almost all night thinking about him and start to cry all over again. Because of this I end up not having energy for my next day’s classes, my attendance has dropped and am always in uni and on time. Generally he is a very nice guy, he ended it because he said we were arguing a lot and not getting along. He is right we’ve been arguing during the pregnancy a lot. After the break up I kept ringing him and telling him I will change. I am in love with this guy and he is the best guy I have ever been with. I’m still hurt and in disbelief when he said he didn’t have any romantic feelings towards me anymore that hurt me faster than a lethal syringe. He texts me now and then mainly to check up on how am doing with the pregnancy, he is supportive with it but it’s not fair on me, him texting me as I just want to grieve the pain and not have any stress due to the pregnancy. i was really upset and i needed help, so i searched for help online and I came across a website that suggested that Dr Ahmed can help solve marital problems, restore broken relationships and so on. So I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he told me what to do and i did it then he did a spell for me. 22 hours later, my boyfriend came to me and apologized for the wrongs he did and promise never to do it again. Ever since then, everything has returned back to normal. I and my boyfriend are living together happily again.. All thanks to Dr Ahmed. as it is a place to resolve marriage/relationship issues, do you want to be sure if your spouse is being faithful to you or Do you want your Ex to come back to you?
    Contact.: E-mail: Ahmedutimate@gmail.com, call/Whats-app: +2348160153829
    save your crumbling home and change of grades its 100% safe.
    I suggest you contact him. He will not disappoint you.

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  29. Good day,,,,
    Read my testimony!!! Getting ex back after a breakup. Am Clara Bartlett 30 from UK, my boyfriend of a 2year just broke up with me and am 28 weeks pregnant. I have cried my self to sleep most of the nights and don’t seem to concentrate during lectures sometimes I stay awake almost all night thinking about him and start to cry all over again. Because of this I end up not having energy for my next day’s classes, my attendance has dropped and am always in uni and on time. Generally he is a very nice guy, he ended it because he said we were arguing a lot and not getting along. He is right we’ve been arguing during the pregnancy a lot. After the break up I kept ringing him and telling him I will change. I am in love with this guy and he is the best guy I have ever been with. I’m still hurt and in disbelief when he said he didn’t have any romantic feelings towards me anymore that hurt me faster than a lethal syringe. He texts me now and then mainly to check up on how am doing with the pregnancy, he is supportive with it but it’s not fair on me, him texting me as I just want to grieve the pain and not have any stress due to the pregnancy. i was really upset and i needed help, so i searched for help online and I came across a website that suggested that Dr Ahmed can help solve marital problems, restore broken relationships and so on. So I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he told me what to do and i did it then he did a spell for me. 22 hours later, my boyfriend came to me and apologized for the wrongs he did and promise never to do it again. Ever since then, everything has returned back to normal. I and my boyfriend are living together happily again.. All thanks to Dr Ahmed. as it is a place to resolve marriage/relationship issues, do you want to be sure if your spouse is being faithful to you or Do you want your Ex to come back to you?
    Contact.: E-mail: Ahmedutimate@gmail.com, call/Whats-app: +2348160153829
    save your crumbling home and change of grades its 100% safe.
    I suggest you contact him. He will not disappoint you.

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  30. Great thanks to Dr Okosun of Okosun Supernatural Home, for the great help rendered to me. i had penis enlargement problems before now, i had tried so many products but couldn't get the best results as i desired it until i got to know about the super penis enlargement skills of Dr Okosun. I was happy and relieved of my nightmares when i received Dr Okosuns super penis enlargement medicine at my home from the DHL, and i took the medicines as instructed, i was so amazed the first time i noticed that my penis was gradually getting bigger and also i was lasting longer on sex. I followed on with open eyes till about 4 weeks of using the medicine when i noticed my penis was already 8 inches long. Now i can satisfy any woman in this world and also proudly say am a man when it comes to staying longer on sex.
    I believe you too can get this super penis enlargement medicine from Dr Okosun on dr.okosunspellalter@gmail.com

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  31. BEST ON LINE LOTTERY MAGIC SPELL TO WIN LOTTERY CONTACT DR.RAY-POWER

    This is Gerry Lisa Cannings I am from Georgia USA , I am retired ,January last year I was bankrupted, I had no money to pay , until I found some testimonies online on how Dr Ray-Power helped people win lottery , I contacted him with frustration , Dr Ray-Power gave me winning numbers for two, I played alongside my husband behold we won (£ 32,534,188) THIRTY TWO MILLION,FIVE HUNDRED AND THIRTY FOUR THOUSAND,ONE HUNDRED AND EIGHTY EIGHT POUNDS, I still cant believe that I and my husband are now milliners with the help of Dr Ray-Power. Thank to you Dr Ray-Power you are a lottery god . Play lottery with no stress contact him through details as follows: Superlotterytemple@yahoo.com

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  32. BEST ON LINE LOTTERY MAGIC SPELL TO WIN LOTTERY CONTACT DR.RAY-POWER

    This is Gerry Lisa Cannings I am from Georgia USA , I am retired ,January last year I was bankrupted, I had no money to pay , until I found some testimonies online on how Dr Ray-Power helped people win lottery , I contacted him with frustration , Dr Ray-Power gave me winning numbers for two, I played alongside my husband behold we won (£ 32,534,188) THIRTY TWO MILLION,FIVE HUNDRED AND THIRTY FOUR THOUSAND,ONE HUNDRED AND EIGHTY EIGHT POUNDS, I still cant believe that I and my husband are now milliners with the help of Dr Ray-Power. Thank to you Dr Ray-Power you are a lottery god . Play lottery with no stress contact him through details as follows: Superlotterytemple@yahoo.com

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  33. My name is Terry: I was so tired of mistrust towards my girlfriend of three years. Even though we live happily some days but she still give me reasons to keep suspecting her. The problem is she likes older men and also finds it difficult to say no to a stalker, but we love each other and cant let go. I was really suffering inside for not being able to trust the woman I want to marry, I cant even forgive her for what she did August of last year for going on secret vacation with her boss.
    As I share this testimony, my girl has finally changed after Dr. Wakina intervened by healing her for good. She was cursed by her step mother to live a wasted life. Nobody knew this, even her until Dr. Wakina revealed and freed her. We have been living in peace for three months now. The spell cast on her destroyed the curse within four days. I think Ive done something good that she appreciates once in our relationship.
    Email Doctor Wakina for 100% healing and cure via dr.wakinalovetemple@gmail.com

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  34. I never believed in spell casting, but After 6 years of dating, I still imagine how Dr Aza brought my ex lover back to me in just 24 hour. No one could have ever made me believe that there is a real spell caster that really work. am sandra by name,I want to quickly tell the world that there is a real on line spell caster that is powerful and genuine, His name is Dr Aza, He helped me recently to reunite my relationship when my ex lover who left me, When i contacted Dr Aza he cast a love spell for me and my ex lover who said he doesn't have anything to do with me again, he called me and started begging me. he is back now with so much love and caring. today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the powers of bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my lover,and the most surprise,is that our love is very strong,every day is happiness and joy. and there is nothing like been with the man you love.i am so happy my love is back to me with the help of Dr.Aza if you have similar problem i will advice you to contact him ,he is there to help you and put a smile on your face. his email: azaspellcaster@gmail.com or you can whatsApp his line:+2348107155060 or see more at http://azaspellcaster.wixsite.com/spell-caster

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  35. Hello everyone, my name is Ethan Ryan I had a dick problem my dick was so small to the extent that I couldn’t satisfy my wife we had so many quarrels and fights, I was helpless and I didn’t know what to do until I met Dr Obilujesu who helped me out of my helpless situation he did something for me that helped me enlarge my dick and my dick came to the normal size and long enough to satisfy my wife, my wife has no reason to complain anymore. I now enjoy my sex life to the fullest. If there’s anyone out there with this similar problem please kindly contact Dr Obilujesu. Via; email: drobilujesuspellcaster@gmail.com or drobilujesuspellcaster@yahoo.com or his website http://drobilujesuspellca.wixsite.com/drobilujesu
    Call him on his mobile +2348143481000 He is the solution that you need…

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  36. BEST LOTTERY MAGIC SPELL CASTER EMAIL @ OGALALOTTERYSPELL@YAHOO.COM

    I am here to testify on how i won $ 1,500,000,000,000 with the great help of dr. Ogala. It is a very hard situation when playing the lottery and never win, or keep winning low fund not up to 500 dollars,i have been a victim of such a tough life, the biggest fund i have ever won was 400 dollars, and i have been playing lottery for almost 32 years now, things suddenly change the moment i came across a secret online spell caster,a testimony of a spell caster called Dr.Ogala who help people in any type of lottery numbers, i was not easily convinced, but i decided to give try, now i am a proud lottery winner with the help of Dr Ogala, i won $ 1,500,000,000,000 (One Billion and five hundred million) and i am making this known to every one out there who have been trying all day to win the lottery, believe me this is the only way to win the lottery, this is the real secret we all have been searching for, you can contact Dr Ogala via email Ogalalotteryspell@yahoo.com or his website on http://ogalalovespell.wix.com/ogalalovespell call him +2348147673679

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  37. "How this spell caster helped me win the lottery by sending me the winning numbers..."

    I am Jasmine Jennifer. i won EuroMillions Millionaire Raffle prize of �1,000,000 in Dec 2016, I took an advice from some person who talked about this great spell caster, the person placed a testimony on a blog saying how this priest helped him win the lottery by sending him the winning numbers , i was curious and i thought it was all joke not until i contacted this spell caster to know for myself how this work cos i have spend alots buying tickets and i never win. I contacted him and he told me the necessary thing that need to be done and i did it and he told me to wait for 3 days and on the 3rd day he truly gave me the winning numbers to play the lottery which i did, Can you believe my name was the first among winners. He told me my son all i need you to do for me is make sure that you share this testimony to others in need of help so that they can also win the lottery. I am sharing this testimony with everyone who needs help to win lottery. Contact this great priest through his email address odalospelltemple@gmail.com or call and whatsapp him on +2348063930531 and your financial problem will be solved forever just as mine was solved

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  38. Am One of the happiest woman on earth since my son was cured from the problem of seizure,which he has been having for eight years now,he do have the attack two to three times a week,which is affecting is education and his life.i got the contact of a doctor from the post of one Mr smith thanking he for curing his seizure problem,i got the contact and contacted him then he made me to know that the medication is a permanent cure, and that was how i got the medication which i used on my son,and for six month now there have been no sign of seizure in him again.any one with such problem can contact him on his email drwilliams098765@gmail.com

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  39. I am Jasmine Jennifer. i won EuroMillions Millionaire Raffle prize of �1,000,000 in Dec 2016, I took an advice from some person who talked about this great spell caster, the person placed a testimony on a blog saying how this priest helped him win the lottery by sending him the winning numbers , i was curious and i thought it was all joke not until i contacted this spell caster to know for myself how this work cos i have spend alots buying tickets and i never win. I contacted him and he told me the necessary thing that need to be done and i did it and he told me to wait for 3 days and on the 3rd day he truly gave me the winning numbers to play the lottery which i did, Can you believe my name was the first among winners. He told me my child all i need you to do for me is make sure that you share this testimony to others in need of help so that they can also win the lottery. I am sharing this testimony with everyone who needs help to win lottery. Contact this great priest through his email address odalospelltemple@gmail.com or call and whatsapp him on +2348063930531 and your financial problem will be solved forever just as mine was solved

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  40. NATURAL & EFFECTIVE TREATMENT TO SEIZURE: Our son has temporal lobe epilepsy, He has seizure and had a grand mal with rage episode (8 men to hold him down), Our son's seizure is constant throughout the day according to EEG results. We had used several medicine which include: 600 Epilem 100 topolex 150 Epitec X2 Daily Dopoquel and cilift, Keppra, Topomax lasted for about 3 days, but I put an end to that due to my son losing weight and being lethargic. I recently got dr williams herbal medicine,that's a natural medicine that cure my son Epilepsy with no side effect. It is an herbal medicine. it is a permanent cure and effective treatment of Epilepsy, for more info, you can contact Dr.William with this drwilliams098765@gmail.com for his product

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  41. My name is Harold Finch am from Texas USA. I want to share a testimony of how Dr. ALUKO herbal mixture cream saves me from shame and disgrace, my penis was a big problem to me as the size was really so embarrassing,and i was also having weak erection problem. I can make love to my wife and my penis was just too small a full grown man like me having 4 inches penis and to worsen it i don't last in sex i cant even last two minutes it was really a thing of shame to me. My wife was really tired of me because my sex life was very poor,she never enjoyed sex,i was always thinking and searching for solutions everywhere until when i saw a testimony of how Dr. ALUKO herbal mixture cream have been helping people regarding their sex life, so i decided to give him a try and to my greatest surprise in less than two weeks of taking the herbs my penis grow to 8 inches i couldn't believe my eyes and as i speak now my penis is now 8 inches and i do not have weak erection again. I can make love to my wife longer in bed. And my marriage is now stable,my wife now enjoy me very well in bed. You can contact him via (dralukospellalter@gmail.com) You can contact him today and get your problem solved.Call +2349051292839.." or you can also contact him through his what-app +2349051292839 ,,,I am really grateful sir.

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  42. Good day every one i want to inform the general public how i was cured of Herpes Virus Patient for good Five years i was loosing hope on myself my HUSBAND ran away from me because of my situation one day i was online and i met a recommend on how Dr Ebhota help her to cure herpes,so i still continue search i saw a testimony of someone again who has been healed from "HIV AND HEPATITIS B" by this Man Dr Ebhota and she also gave the email address of this man and advise we should contact him for any sickness that he would be of help, so i email Dr Ebhota telling him about my HERPES Virus he told me not to worry that i was going to be cured...oh i never believed it,well after all the procedures and remedy given to me by this man 2 weeks later i started experiencing changes all over me as the Dr Ebhota assured me that i have cured,after some time i went to my doctor to confirmed if i have be finally healed behold it was TRUE,hat is why i want you to join me thank Dr Ebhota for saving my life if you need help please contact him via email;drebhota123456@gmail.com or his cell number +2347086564868,

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